Change in Plans...

Everything closed at the bank just fine - as House Guy says, it went perfectly! Now I'm waiting for them to get the house moved out there. He said they are behind about 3-5 days due to the rain. It will be delivering Monday or Tuesday now.

At first Scott was MAD! He was threatening to turn off the cable/internet, which also turns off my home phone. Then was going to turn off the electricity next Thursday & the water the next Thursday. Says that if he makes it uncomfortable for me to be there, maybe I will hurry up & get out then. When I went home - there was cable, etc. He's so sorry!

My parents are mad at me b/c I didn't go over there Tuesday night so my dad could go to the store. I do something twice & they think I'm supposed to do it ALL the time. They NEVER asked me - they just assume. I hate that & I think it is SO rude!

Yesterday Gail & I went to get some chairs for my table. I will finally have chairs to go with my nice antique table! It was so cool b/c I found them on Craigslist cheap. There are 6 of them & 2 of them are arm chairs. I am SO excited!

Then we had to take them to my parent's to store them there (no need in moving them twice). My dad was rude (even a little to my friend) & my mom went off on me in front of my friend. I'm really sick of it! They need to get a life... oh wait, they don't have one! My mom got up on Tuesday for a couple of hours & went to the computer. My friend told her that she needs to get up more & she started about how she doesn't have the strength and my friend tried to tell her that she needed to gain strength by getting up more & more.

Anyway, my mom was telling me how negative I was being b/c the cigarette smoke was killing me (hello! I have asthma). My dad was sitting in the kitchen smoking & griping about me & taking care of my mom. He's out there!!! How many times has she taken care of him?! My mom has friends that won't come over b/c of the smoke & the fact that it gives them a headache. Duh! My mom even went off on me about Scott & how she can't wait until he is out of my life & basically was accusing me of acting like him. She has NO right to say anything about him or tell me that she thinks he isn't going to do my utilities, etc. I think I know him better than anyone - sad but true!

Latest House News...

So I finally talked to House Guy as some of my friends call him. He is taking the papers to the bank tomorrow AM first thing & walking them into the Loan Officer so I will be totally closed & ready to receive my house ~ yipee! He already got the permits to move my house(s) too. They are 5-day permits so it's coming quickly! I'm not sure what day I will be moving in other than Friday & Saturday. I can't wait!!! I want out of here. It's hard to talk to someone ELSE on the phone & have him popping in & out. He only comes here to take a shower - nothing else. Yeah, get this... they don't have water at his girlfriend's house. Nasty, huh?! Can you say white-trash?!

Great News or No News...

I am wondering when I will hear from my salesman today. I have been trying to pack here & there and didn't pack any last night. I did pack one big box before church but have lots & lots more to pack here & there in my room, bathroom, closet and of coarse in the famous craft/storage room. I think it's going to be best to get it unloaded with what has been packed all ready & then go from there. A lot of things will just need to be thrown in boxes & won't be hard to get taken care of once we get busy.

I guess I will post later on today as to what the news is about the house. Stay tuned to more on my life & times!!!

TOO Nice...

Well I think I've decided that I'm WAY too nice & that is why I get run over & taken advantage of so often. However, if I was rough & rude - I wouldn't be ME!!! So... if I'm nice - I get taken advantage of. If I'm not so nice, people think I'm being rude. Go Figure!!! I can't win for losing 99% of the time.

I try to help my mom & dad out by getting people to help ~ I get griped at. I try to get someone to help my mom with personal care - I get griped at. You look at the two bozos that I called family just a year ago... they totally stabbed me in the back & took advantage of me! I find someone I like & I'm really nice, well that bites me in the butt cuz I'm SO nice.

Why am I so nice?!... I guess cuz that's just me!

Yesterday...

I woke up at Mom & Dad's b/c I spent Friday night with them. It was the worst night with my mom so far!!! She whined & cried all night b/c she was hurting. Her right hip that is fractured is still hurting her from going to the doctor on Wednesday & sitting in the wheelchair for 3-hours. I think also the infusion is hurting b/c it's supposed to make her bones hurt. She kept drinking water out of her plastic bottles & the bottles were crackling & popping all night long. It was miserable. Then my dad came in there at 3:30 & they had the bright lamp on & were talking ~ errr!!! And what gets me is they want me to spend the night during the week when I have to go to work the next day??!!

I went & turned in allllll my paperwork yesterday so my house will be delivered this week. I think my salesman is driving it to the bank on Monday to get the ball rolling quicker. His initial plan was to have the house delivered on Tuesday. I'm not sure if that's still the case. He had a bad day & wasn't happy to see me. =( LONG story but we had a short visit. It's going to all be ok ~ I will go on.

Yesterday...

The closing papers were supposed to arrive from the bank but they did not come. They did go out by Fed Ex yesterday so they will arrive today. I'm hoping all is well with them b/c my mom didn't have a good night & sleep much so she won't be in the mood for too much.

I did pick up the closing papers from the mobile home company. It's only about 150 pages worth of documents that have to be signed! OK - not really but it's alot. My mom & I are going to have fun getting them all done tonight.

Guess all those kisses that were sent with them will make up for the hassle I will have to go thru. =)

Doctor's Appointment

Mom went to her Doctor's appointment finally to the Oncologist. She couldn't go last week b/c she was still not feeling well from the bladder infection & also still feeling dizzy. He told her she is in Stage 4 of cancer b/c it was affecting her bones. They did the infusion of Zemedia (sp?) to strengthen her bones. She has to go back in 4 weeks to have another one again. I think she is going to start getting them every month. He is also going to refer her to an Orthopedic Specialist in Austin to see about her hip so she can get up & start walking. I'm not sure what they are going to do about that b/c she really needs a hip replacement. Also, she should be going for the brain CT Scan soon.

Yesterday...

I got the call yesterday AM from my great salesman that the bank approved the rest of the $'s so my loan went thru (rather Mom's loan). They are overnighting the papers to my mom so she doesn't have to go to closing (a total answer to prayer). My house should be delivered on Tuesday. It will be delivered, set up, blocked & tied down on Tuesday. Then it will be trimmed out on Wednesday (carpet, trim, cabinets, light fixtures, etc.). Just a little longer & I can move out of my crazy house!

Good Things...

Friday PM the attorney called me & wanted to make sure I was ok with everything b/c we changed our agreement some. He said he would get the papers typed up & file them with the court (guess that means first part of next week).

The House Guy called me on Saturday & I will get the preliminary closing papers on Monday. We should be able to close on Tuesday or he is going to try to see if they will send them overnight to my mom to keep her from having to go to closing. I think that would be better!

Then - my house will be delivered most likely the next day!!! I will have my house by the end of the week... I'm so happy. Scott should be able to run the electric one evening & then do the water & sewer one weekend soon. I'm still going to plan to move alot of stuff over the weekend - even w/out it having a/c. Maybe I can get some fans & crack the windows open. I can move the boxes & furniture that will be ok w/out a/c. I don't know how long after I let them know the electric is hooked up that the a/c guys will come but I assume quickly.

Urgent Prayer Request

My friend in Louisiana was telling me the other night that there was a man in their church that was killed on his way home. He was hit head on by an 18 wheeler. He was a wonderful husband & father but most of all, he was a great servant to his pastor, church and most of all God! His funeral was today. Please pray for the Franks family during their time of sorrow.

Good Visit...

I spent the night with my mom & dad on Friday night so I could releave my dad. He went to the store Friday night & was gone about 5 hours. My mom & I ate burgers, talked, watched tv & had a good time. I think we fell asleep talking. The next day we all got up late & mom & I took a nap while my dad went to get gas in order to mow. He cooked us breakfast & then went to mow the front of the property. It was a nice break for him & we all had a good time hanging out.

I think the whole blow up on Monday was him venting b/c he had NO one else to vent to. He must be going stir crazy at times. I think he's really excited about me moving there so I'm more at peace about everything now. I knew this weekend would tell what I should do.

Yesterday...

So I woke up this AM & decided that if I were a turtle, I would have stayed in my shell all yesterday evening. It was the 2nd bad day I've had this week!!! I know God is working but sometimes I want to scream, Lord - where are you?!

I know my life is fixing to change drastically. From moving to a new house, to getting the divorce, to being under my parent's nose... now that's the one that scares me the most! I spent 30 years trying to stay out of under my dad's feet & away from the whole attitude thing b/c I didn't want to turn out like him. I know I have a good attitude & am a happy person (regardless of what I've been thru). I don't want living there to make me bitter & for me to hate him in anyway. I really am an independent person & don't like someone "watching" after me or in my business so now I've been trying to figure out - am I supposed to move there on their property?! Has everything fallin into place with this house for a reason? Is God going to work all this out amazingly somehow? I know confusion is not of God but I'm also human & have lots of wonders about this move. Please help me pray for God's will in this move - right now I feel like I'm jumping into it (wow - how can I say that after all this time?!).

My mom is still complaining of feeling dizzy when she turns her head to the right. She also complained of this in the hospital - same side but she thinks she was getting the same antibiotic there too. She hasn't taken that antibiotic since Monday so she thinks it takes time to get out of her system. I've been thinking - the only area they haven't scanned, besides her big toe is her brain. This has been one of my biggest fears since this all started! I called the Oncologists Office & the lady is giong to speak to the doctor. My mom would have a COW if she knew I called so they aren't going to tell her. They are going to find out about the brain scan, her getting out of bed or physical therapy to get her up & give me a call back.

Tuesday, 7/15...

I found out that I will be closing on my house on Monday or Tuesday. I will be moving soon ~ yipee! You can check out pictures of my house at the bottom of my page. I'm so excited & can't wait to get my stuff moved & out of here.

My mom still has a bladder infection. She woke up dizzy so they called the doctor & the home health care nurse came out. They decided that she was hypersensitive to the antibiotic so the whole 5-6 days she had been taking it - it had done nothing for her. They called in another antibiotic & I went to go pick that up along with a couple of things for her. Between the errands & the babysitting, I'm always busy doing something for them (but my dad doesn't see it that way!).

Please continue to pray for us & that God would give us strength & peace to deal with all of this.

Friday, 7/11...

I turned in paperwork & my down payment today. It was even sealed with a kiss!!! =) I should be closing soon but not sure when yet. My house will be delivered that day or the next day.

Thursday PM...

Today was one of those weird days! It's like I waited the whole day for something to happen & then it came & was over so quick.

I have the acceptance letter for my house loan. My mom has to make a call to the bank in the AM to ask a question. I have to go tomorrow to buy a cashier's check for my down payment & get it turned in. I bet I will be moving w/in about 2-weeks. =)

Wednesday PM...

I got approval on my house (well my mom did). I got 7% interest for 15 years & my payments won't be bad at all. I'm so excited! I have to take some info tomorrow that the bank is requesting. I'm hoping it all goes well. I could be moved & out of here in just 2-weeks! =) OK, maybe not but I think my house will be set up & will have alot of stuff moved by then. I will have to wait for the a/c to be installed after Scott hooks up the electric.

I've got to get the attorney some papers & get the $'s sent to him so we can move on with this thing. I'm so ready to be detatched from this guy that it's not funny! I dread having to see him & talk to him each day. I think that's so awful b/c he used to be the light of my life.

Wednesday, 7/9...

I went to see the attorney yesterday PM. It's all going to go pretty quick! I just have to get him some information on the house, his 401K and a new agreement between the 2-of us. It's always something. We are going to be divorced in less than 60 days & maybe just over 30 - so about 45 is what we are thinking.

When I got out of the attorney's office, I called Scott to let him know what he said. He immediately went off on me & started yelling & cursing. It was awful! I was so glad Gail had rode over there with me. He was being unreasonable & I had a headache earlier in the day & then it came back with him. It was so ridiculous. He was yelling that I was just going to drop off the paper & that was it. Why was there for an hour talking to him. I kept trying to tell him that it was all preliminary & that was just the proceedure: you fill out the paper & he gets a little information & tells you how it works.

I should be hearing about my financing on my house any day now. I'm hoping to get it & get moved soon! Scott has already contacted a realtor & trying to get the ball rolling with that. Once he sells the house, I will get my settlement $'s from him too. I should be moved by the end of the month & living on my parent's place. Even if all my stuff is just in my house & not set up, I will be out of underneath his feet.

I will be glad to be moved, free of this guy & on with my life! It's coming soon & I believe I will have some victory!

Monday, 7/7...

My mom went for her follow-up at the Cancer Center today. She is doing better but still needs to gain more strength. She is supposed to go back in 6-weeks but in the meantime follow-up with the oncologist. He is going to do an infusion next Wednesday of Zemedia (sp?) to strengthen her bones. At this time, they are still talking about no chemo. Now at her 6-week check up, they may talk about her doing radiation again... just depends on how she's progressed & if she's able to go for 10 days of treatment. I had to take her b/c insurance will no longer pay for the ambulance service.

I was supposed to hear about the financing of my house today. I guess the bank didn't call b/c I didn't hear anything back. I'm trying to put pics of my "new" house on my blog so be patient. =)

I have an appointment with an attorney tomorrow afternoon (not the original one). He's going to charge about $1000 less than the all the ones Scott found. Of coarse, I'm not paying for this!!! He wanted - he can pay for it! But I want everyone to know - I'm done with this situation & I want OUT... yesterday. I'm so ready to move on. I'm only 38 & I want to date & have a chance to have a family some day. God has so many things in store for me & I'm tired of living in this rut & want to move on.

Saturday, 7/5...

Mom went for a bone scan on Thursday & was gone almost all day. It was stressful for her. She goes for a follow up appointment on Monday with the radiological oncologist - the doctor that did her radiation. She still needs to go for a brain scan. I joked with her before & said that between that & her big toe - those are the only 2-areas they haven't scanned yet.

I need for you to help us pray for my Dad ~ he needs right thinking. He's off worrying about things that don't matter, instead of making my mom the #1 priority in life. He's just kept on & on & now has gotten on my mom's nerves really bad & she just needs the rest & peace. When I come - he leaves & comes back hours later! I need y'all to pray about that too.

I contacted an attorney this week & faxed her our Anticipation of Divorce Agreement. It should be cut & dry & easy to get out of w/no problem. We don't have any real argument on anything & we have no real property. I haven't heard back from her yet. She was out of the office & hadn't looked at it yet. I'm going to call her on Monday to see what she has to say. She is going to be our attorney joint since our situation is simple, there shouldn't be a problem.

I should hear something on the financing of my house on Monday. I'm getting a totally different house than I was getting before. God has a way of working things out. I know God is awesome & will work things out. It's all coming about & coming soon.

Please just keep me in your prayers. I have SO much going on & my life is moving so quick now & it's all for a reason.